‘Leaders who are constantly stressed cannot make good decisions. They have too little attention and time for employees. After all, good leadership means enabling another person to do his or her work well,’ according to Daniel Goleman.
In a time when appointments are glued together, and at the same time social media offers a vast supply of stimuli and triggers, space of your own is a rarity. Some of my coachees indicate that they barely spend time with themselves in silence. When they (gently) start with a walk without their phone, and I then ask them which senses they used, they note that they felt anxiety and every ten seconds were panicking and reaching for the missing phone in their pocket. They were mainly internally focused. Birds and trees had passed them by entirely.
Stress management is one of the competences within the development of Emotional Intelligence. Rightly, Daniel Goleman (not, incidentally, the originator of E.I., that was professor Peter Salovey at Yale University and John D. Mayer) points out that you do not simply learn emotional intelligence during a course. It requires more attention and time. For example through coaching, to develop emotional self knowledge and to learn and integrate certain skills. So making time and space to go inward and step off the wheel. And: emotions are not soft or woolly. And, if you do not recognise your own, how do you recognise those of your colleagues?
For more information about my Leadership programmes ‘Emotionally Intelligent Leadership’, go to https://lnkd.in/ekWgGyux or WhatsApp me for an appointment: 06 45 308 813.
‘Leaders are hired for their knowledge or experience, and fired for their lack of emotional intelligence’.
‘Stress makes you almost literally stupid’
‘Leaders who are constantly stressed cannot make good decisions. They have too little attention and time for employees. After all, good leadership means enabling another person to do his or her work well,’ according to Daniel Goleman.
In a time when appointments are glued together, and at the same time social media offers a vast supply of stimuli and triggers, space of your own is a rarity. Some of my coachees indicate that they barely spend time with themselves in silence. When they (gently) start with a walk without their phone, and I then ask them which senses they used, they note that they felt anxiety and every ten seconds were panicking and reaching for the missing phone in their pocket. They were mainly internally focused. Birds and trees had passed them by entirely.
Stress management is one of the competences within the development of Emotional Intelligence. Rightly, Daniel Goleman (not, incidentally, the originator of E.I., that was professor Peter Salovey at Yale University and John D. Mayer) points out that you do not simply learn emotional intelligence during a course. It requires more attention and time. For example through coaching, to develop emotional self knowledge and to learn and integrate certain skills. So making time and space to go inward and step off the wheel. And: emotions are not soft or woolly. And, if you do not recognise your own, how do you recognise those of your colleagues?
For more information about my Leadership programmes ‘Emotionally Intelligent Leadership’, go to https://lnkd.in/ekWgGyux or WhatsApp me for an appointment: 06 45 308 813.
‘Leaders are hired for their knowledge or experience, and fired for their lack of emotional intelligence’.
Source: FD, Dominique Haijtema
dated 06-07-24 | Photo: Sabrina Rynas/GETTY
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